In a cycle of abuse punctuated by periods of compassion and tenderness, the emotional turmoil caused by the relationship’s violence can be especially difficult to process. A victim and abuser who have a “trauma connection” are in an abusive relationship. As a rule, it’s a dynamic that evolves through time. The abused person grows emotionally bonded to their abusive relationship as they begin to see the positive qualities of the person who is psychologically abusing them. Read up on the subject using some of the Best 40 Trauma Bonding Quotes to gain insight and knowledge.
Trauma Bonding PTSD Quotes
- “Increasing emotional intimacy with a person who is forcing physical intimacy makes sense in our minds. It resolves cognitive dissonance.” – Rosenna Bakari
- “Many survivors have such profound deficiencies in self-protection that they can barely imagine themselves in a position of agency or choice.” – Judith Lewis Herman
- “Although the victim may disclose the abuse, the trauma bond means that the victim may also wish to receive comfort from the very person who abused them.” – Unknown
- “Delusional pain hurts just as much as the pain from actual trauma. So what if it’s all in your head?” – Tracy Morgan
- “Sometimes the adjustment that the mind makes is for the victim to bring her or his behavior in line with the violator since the violator cannot be controlled by the victim. Our greatest source of survival is to adapt to our environment.” – Rosenna Bakari
- “It is not uncommon to find adult survivors who continue to minister to the needs of those who once abused them and who continue to permit major intrusions without boundaries or limits.” – Judith Lewis Herman
- “When all you know is fight or flight, red flags, and butterflies all feel the same.” – Cindy Cherie
- “To live in the body of a survivor is to never be able to leave the scene of the crime. I cannot ignore the fact that I live here.” – Blythe Baird
- “When there is inconsistency in belief and action (such as being violated by someone who is supposed to love you) our mind has to make an adjustment so that thought and action are aligned.” – Rosenna Bakari
- “Adult survivors may nurse their abusers in illness, defend them in adversity, and even, in extreme cases, continue to submit to their sexual demands.” – Judith Lewis Herman
- “I wondered, as I wondered so often when I was that age, who I was, and what exactly was looking at the face in the mirror. If the face I was looking at wasn’t me, and I knew it wasn’t, because I would still be me whatever happened to my face, then what was me? And what was watching?” – Neil Gaiman
- “You don’t walk out of a breakup empty-handed. Every breakup teaches a lesson. Find yours.” – Unknown
- “Don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a long time making it.” – Unknown
- “Don’t let someone who isn’t worth your love make you forget how much you are worth.” – Unknown
- “It’s better to be single with a standard than losing yourself for approval.” – Unknown
- “Definition of Ex: Thanks for the Experience. Our time has Expired. Now, Ex-it my life.” – Unknown
- “When abuse is perpetrated by intimates, it is additionally confounding in terms of attachment, betrayal, and trust.” – Christine A. Courtois
- “I think my biggest fear is dying. Although sometimes my biggest fear is not dying. But yeah, I think health stuff for me is more what I’m afraid of.” – Kathleen Hanna
- “The capacity for dissociation enables the young child to exercise their innate life-sustaining need for attachment in spite of the fact that principal attachment figures are also principal abusers.” – Warwick Middleton
- “Intimacy requires a slow, cumulative build of safety between people who agree to a relationship, an ongoing connection of care and concern. The performance of pain is essentially a form of bonding over trauma, and people can get addicted to their endorphins.” – Lierre Keith
Narcissist Trauma Bonding Quotes
- “Betrayal is a more subtle, twisted feeling than terror. It burns and eats, but terror stabs right through.” – Wendy Hoffman
- “Secure attachment has been linked to a child’s ability to successfully recover and prove resilient in the presence of a traumatic event.” – Asa Don Brown
- “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”– Tigress Luv
- “If love breaks more than a heart, maybe it’s a sign and time to step out.”– Anthony Liccione
- “Just because a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean it’s not worth having.”– Sarah Mlynowski
- “If you are not sure where you stand with someone, then it might be time to start walking.” – Unknown
- “Look and see and realize that the world is better without him in it, you were right to end it.” – Unknown
- “I let my world revolve around you when I should not have and so now I am suffering alone.” – Unknown
- “The capacity for dissociation enables the young child to exercise their innate life-sustaining need for attachment in spite of the fact that principal attachment figures are also principal abusers.” – Warwick Middleton
- “Their experiences led them to create assumptions about others and related beliefs about themselves such as “this is my lot in life” and “this is what I deserve.” – Christine A. Courtois
- “I wanted my mother to love me. Despite all the torture and brutality.” – Wendy Hoffman
- “It is rare for even adult children to abandon their mother, regardless of how many times their mother has abandoned them.” – Christine Ann Lawson
- “The thing is that love eventually dies if the flame is not kept tended to and that is truly sad.” – Unknown
- “You changed and so did I and realized that we are just not made for each other, simple as it.” – Unknown
- “I think that the best thing that I have learned from you is that I can still survive after you too.” – Unknown
- “Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”– Khalil Gibran
- “To meet, to know, to love and then to part, is the sad tale of many a heart.”– Samuel Taylor Coleridge
- “Relationships end too soon because people stop putting the same effort to keep you as they did to win you.” – Unknown
- “You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them … but still move on without them.”– Mandy Hale
- “They may have also experienced trauma bonding over the course of their victimization, that is, a bond of specialness with or dependence on the abuser.” – Christine A. Courtois
- “Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods.” – Peter A. Levine
- “A lot of people who have experienced trauma at the hands of people they’ve trusted take responsibility, and that is what’s toxic.” – Hannah Gadsby
- “PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) occurs following a trauma that was so awful that in retrospect you don’t understand how you survived. What that causes is an extreme feeling of vulnerability that you get past but that doesn’t go away.” – Paul Goulston
- “What we change inwardly will change outer reality.” – Plutarch
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